Listen Lovelie, I wish someone had told me a long time ago that there was no such thing as balance, only harmony.  Think about it, for something to be balanced it must bear equal weight on all sides, right?  Well, when has anything in your life ever been equal?  You’re a mother, a wife, a daughter, a friend, a sister, a co-worker and so much more.  If you’re anything like me, you’ve given more to some people and causes in your life than you will ever get back in return, but as the French say, ‘c’est la vie’.  That’s life.

The fact is, you never give the same amount of attention to anything in your life.  It’s impossible.  Sometimes your family gets more and sometimes your business or career gets more, but the key isn’t in how you divvy up yourself, but in how you feel about it.  If you feel like something deserves more or less of you, you be the judge.  Don’t allow others to speak your truth for you.  Be the woman I know you are and speak for yourself.

Who decided that to have peace was to have balance anyway? The essence of true peace can often be found in the midst of pure chaos; things outside our control.  However, being able to find harmony when things around you are out of your control and falling apart, that’s peace, that’s balance.  Harmony reflects the notion that although things aren’t equal, there can still be a sense of peace, calmness, and fulfillment resonating from inside of you.  Harmony means accepting things as they are and not trying to balance them into something they will never be.

Lovely, each person’s idea of harmony is different and you have to decide what’s best for you.  Just like every girl looks different in red lipstick, your sense of harmony will play out differently as well.  In the meantime, do me a favor, don’t allow anyone to paint your picture of harmony for you.  You are the Picasso of your life’s landscape.  Whether you choose to use thin, well-crafted lines of symmetry or broad strokes that spill outside the lines, the choice is yours.  Whichever way you decide to live life, live it authentically and unapologetically, because you only get one chance to craft this story called, your life.

I hope that you’ll enjoy my writings, share them with your tribe, comment when you feel compelled, oh and make sure we stay connected.

With Love,



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