Life can be a bit overwhelming at times. Our days are filled with people, places, and things vying for our attention and if you’re a leader in your profession, a business owner, a parent, or a caregiver, these obligations multiply. The pressure of it all can cause you to feel off centered, not relaxed, and irritable at best.
If 2016 was a year of mild to severe overwhelm for you, I want to offer you 7 things you can decrease or eliminate in 2017, if you hadn’t already done so in 2016, that will put you back on track, refocus your mind, your priorities, and ease your sense of overwhelm for the year ahead.
- PEOPLE. Like stowaway, some people snuck their way into your life in 2016, but now that you know they’re there, what are you going to do about it? A few individuals should have been cut from your team a long time ago, but you’ve allowed their presence for one reason or another. It’s 2017 and you’re finally beginning to realize that they belong in a different part of your life story. A part of your life called, the past.
- THINGS. We are a society that over consumes. Some of us make purchases, not because we need them, but just to prove that we can afford them. While others make purchases because they don’t want others to know they can’t afford them. Whatever your story was in 2016, vow to make a change for 2017. Put your money to better use and fix the problem that has you buying things you don’t need, or worse, can’t afford, to impress people you don’t like.
- OLD STORIES. Some stories are fun to tell. They bring joy to you and to the listeners, but some stories are old, tired, and frankly, people are sick and tired of listening to you tell the same story repeatedly, without resolve. You know which stories no longer fit into the next chapter of your life. Do yourself and everyone else a favor and put them to rest.
- INBOX. Just like we clean our closets, drawers, refrigerators, and cabinets; our cyber world needs to be decluttered as well. Take some time out of your schedule to clean this space. If you take public transportation, you can do it during your commute. You can do it while you’re waiting at your next doctor’s appointment or just block out time on your calendar. Literally, put it on your schedule and get it done.
- FACEBOOK. If you’re on Facebook for business, you should be strategic about your online relationships. I started my personal page in 2008 when I was an adjunct professor and full-time elementary school teacher. So, many of my initial contacts came from those worlds, but I’ve grown since then and so has my business. My focus and main interest in Facebook is in keeping my tribe informed and educated. One of the things I’ve intentionally done on FB is to not take part in too many groups. I know people who are part of fifty or more groups. In my case, I was receive request to join one group or another on a regular basis. While I find high value in some, they aren’t all cut from the same cloth. My advice, remove yourself from any group(s) that doesn’t fit your focus or your goals for 2017 and watch your focus increase and your number of notification distractions, decrease.
- YOUR MESSAGING. I don’t know about you, but our most recent election depleted me. There was nothing but constant bickering, name calling, and derogatory messaging being tossed all over the place. During that time, I hung out in my online FB group, The WE Women Network. I spent my time connecting with the women in my tribe and though I was tempted to bring up the election, I figured I’d leave that to everyone else in the cyber world. Make a conscientious decision to stay away from messaging that drains you and doesn’t bring value to your life in 2017; whether that messaging is from the outside world or even someone you love, you owe it to yourself to tune out and make room for more empowering thoughts to enter your mental space in the new year. You only have but so much room.
- ELIMINATE THOUGHTS OF LACK. As an online marketer, I spend a lot of time on social media connecting with my tribe. One of the most consistent themes online is relationships. So many women want to be in romantic relationships that they spend most of their time posting about their desires for a mate. This behavior clearly insinuates that there is something missing. We all have things in our lives that could use some work and although you may feel there’s a void in your life, it’s not healthy to focus on it. Instead, claim what you already have. Switch the conversation from “I want”, to “thank you Creator for preparing me for what is coming my way”. Don’t long for it, claim it!
Dr. Terré is a writer, thought leader, healer, business coach, and transformational speaker.